Gay men, what would you like to explain about the "gay best friend" stereotype to staight people? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by vis4valentine@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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To be clear, im queer and im in a relationship with a gay cis man.

Some days ago we were watching a sketch on YouTube about the gay best friend stereotype, where the joke was basically "I can be misogynistic and can walk into female dressing rooms because im gay". I was trying to gather my thoughts to write a piece about it, personally I have no problem being the "gay friend" to my female friends, but there are a lot of stupid and harmful misconceptions about it. I would like to hear some of your opinions about it.

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[-] king_dead@beehaw.org 13 points 1 year ago

Sounds more like they're spouting old gay predator stereotypes from the 80s-2000s

[-] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 year ago

Yeah but in a comedic tone. The joke is like:

Straight guy she barely knows calls her removed. Gets slapped.
Gay best friend calls her removed. They laugh together.

Anyway it 100% sucks, but I think the missing piece is that having an inside joke with someone you trust makes the situation entirely different. While the other guy is being a dick and insulting her out of the blue. So the sketch really misses the mark on that one.

Anyway I never called any of my female friends removed. Ever. Like, why?

this post was submitted on 16 Aug 2023

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