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Self Improvement
A community which focusses on improving yourself. This can be in many different ways - from improving physical health or appearance, to improving mental health, creating better habits, overcoming addictions, etc.
While material circumstances beyond our control do govern much of our daily lives, people do have agency and choices to make, whether that is as "simple" as disciplining yourself to not doomscroll, to as complex as recreating yourself to have many different hobbies and habits.
This is not a place where all we do is talk about improving "productivity" (in a workplace context) and similar terms and harmful lifestyles like "grindset". Self-improvement here is intended to make you a generally better and happier person, as well as a better communist, and any other roles you may have in your life.
Rules and guidelines:
- Posts should be about self-improvement. This is obviously a wide category, and can range from advice, to finding resources, to self-posts about needing to improve in a certain area, or how you have improved, and many other things.
- Use content warnings when discussing difficult subjects.
- Do not make medical decisions solely because of a discussion you have had with any person here (e.g. whether to take or not take medications; diagnoses; etc.) as we do not vet people. All medical problems should be discussed with a real-life medical professional.
- Do not post harmful advice here. If this is seen, then please report it and we shall remove it. If you are unsure about whether it's precisely harmful advice or not but feel uneasy about it, please report it anyway.
- Do not insult other users and their lifestyles or their habits (unless they ask, I suppose). This is a place for self-improvement. Critique and discussion about a course of action is encouraged over shit-flinging. Don't talk down to people.
lol incredible that was relatable by such a specific description 😂
It’s so tough, I also feel like it’s rooted in not wanting to be perceived because it’s impossible to know exactly what they’re thinking when they see a message/communication from me. You can pick up a vibe of course, but I’ve been living my entire life just picking up vibes and it seems like spinning the wheel in the early stages of a relationship with someone in any capacity (obviously not really an issue with friends I’ve known for decades though).
I also haven’t found a way to deal with the negative emotions when things go awry by anything other than disassociation. Then I try to go to a therapist, the the therapist says I might be autistic and doesn’t do anything to help, I tell my family and my family says I’m never happy with any therapist when the answer is probably just finding a therapist who has been in my shoes and isn’t just trying to put themselves in my shoes