This post is an explanation of how my personal motivation works, and I am curious how others here relate to it, and if it is a common thing with ADHD.
For starters, I have inattentive-type ADHD, have been diagnosed and on various medications for ~5 years, and am roughly college age for context. I am very highly motivated by other people, basically anything where people are depending on my for something, or will directly help/harm someone depending on my actions. Of course I still have executive dysfunction struggles regardless, but that external motivation helps immensely.
In school this manifested as struggling a lot with homework (often not doing it), but doing very well in-class and with group projects. In my limited work and internship experiences, somewhat predicably, I have done very well as directly working hands-on with coworkers highly motivates me. Unfortunately, personal life progression things like actually getting a job and finding and applying for further education is the exact opposite, and is a struggle. There are of course plenty more examples, but I think that gives the gist of my experience.
[Cross posted from !adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com cuz I forgor that was mainly a memes community]
I have the same problem and wish I could trick myself into seeing myself as a different person because I'm only capable of being nice to and attentive to other people 🫠
Here's a fantastic secret: eventually you can.
Telling yourself that you are a people too might help (it did not me) but also, you cannot help others until you take care of yourself first. It's worth exploring that thought further as to why you behave that way - especially since there could be several potential reasons, as everyone is not the same cookie cutter personality. It's okay to be different - it's far less than okay to not be able to get stuff done in a world that demands it.
Standard disclaimer I'm no psychologist, so what do I know, really? I just wanted to encourage you that it can be different than it is now.