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this post was submitted on 31 Mar 2025
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Absolutely. I’m not disabled but I can say with confidence there are genuinely zero good people on this planet. Me included. People are truly only in it for themselves and will cast aside and trample anyone who gets in their way.
Learned that first from my parents. Even if they’re related to you, they will throw you under the bus at their earliest convenience.
I know several people who would give up anything on hand to help if needed. There are plenty of good people in this world. If you're willing to give, you will find those willing to help
But there’s no guarantee that if the time came where someone was in need, they would actually act and give up things on hand.
I grew up thinking that friends and loved ones took care of each other when in need. I even dropped big things to help those I loved. My mom neglected her health until she needed an emergency surgery and once I found out I dropped a final exam in uni to make sure she got there and took her meds.
When I had a serious emergency though, I was completely alone. Both parents, all family and friends. You have friends until they decide you don’t offer them enough. It’s too much energy expended to maintain dynamics like that with multiple people. You end up feeling worthless and that takes a big toll on your health.
Some people suck. But no, that's not the case for many of the people I know. I know many people who aren't transactional at all. I have friends who don't care about value and will help whenever is needed. I know other people who are like what you're talking about. But still, the good ones, that will help for whatever, are genuinely good. They're not doing it as a transaction.