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Happened to me once when two of my friends started dating and then had a nasty breakup. Thankfully they didn't involve me in it, worst that happened was one of them did complain about the other to me but it didn't devolve into full on shittalking thankfully, and I just told them point blank I'm still friends with their ex and while their frustrations are valid, I'm not comfortable with them venting to me. We're all adults so that's where it ended and I'm still friends with both! I don't think they ever made up but I also don't feel it's my place to ask lol it's been years at this point so it's just water under the bridge
If this keeps happening to you I'm afraid you need better friends. Unless the reason they're fighting is due to something serious (assault, robbery, discrimination, etc.) there's no reason they should involve you. I know it can be hard to be harsh with people you care about, but sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is to tell them to grow up lol, sometimes people need to watch all their bridges burn before they realise they're the one that needs to change