I've been telling people, if an admin defeds lemmygrad for some smarmy ass lying complete libshit reasons like Ada did, you should have 0 (zero) confidence that she or any other admin who does the same will be willing to engage y'all in good faith and actually work to change their instance, there isn't a single reason to defed lemmygrad that couldn't also be used to defed Hexbear for other than maybe lemmygrad is more sectatarian but that makes up maybe 1% of the content on our comms, or maybe that it's not as outwardly pro-trans*, but then again it's also the only instance in the threadiverse that I'm aware of that specifically makes you give your view on gender as part of it's application to weed out transphobes before they can even make an account (I'm not even sure how many instances even still use applications).
Brigading? I've seen more links dropped in hexbear threads in the like 2 weeks y'all have been federated than I did in 3 months on lemmygrad
Trolling? Y'all literally have an emote of a fucking pig shitting on its own testicles, what trolling can lemmygrad even conjure to compare to that
"being ok with wishing death on the people of Nato" this is the most baffling one, y'all literally have an emote dedicated to this kind of comment that has a nuke symbol and says "Please, Xi" that's used to say that the entirety of the west should be nuked and destroyed which is the exact same of comments made on lemmygrad just without the emote, and that's just the ones that use that emote in particular.
It may look like I'm saying I told you so because, well, I am, I told you so. I would be extremely surprised if that shithead of a mod gets removed, I put it at about the same chances as blahaj refederating with lemmygrad (so never, lol).
*I'm sure lemmygrad could be better in some way about this, but at the same time 11% of our users were trans when we did a survey 2 months ago, which I hope means that it's generally still a good, safe instance for our trans comrades (P.S. WE LOVE OUR TRANS COMRADES)
Edit: some further evidence of shit lib behavior, when she originally defederated lemmygrad it's not like she put effort to remain federated like y'all did, she dropped 2 (two) comments deep in some random ass thread where she called us tankies, this person was never going to put in the same kind of effort that y'all were going to, forgot about this until after I made the post https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/501598 https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/501598 their instance is struggling so here's a screenshot if you can't load them
I should mention there's more lore that I've never bothered to look into, like why is there a r/197? don't really know, and I've already put too much time browsing through threads trying to piece together answers while
ors do that annoying shit where they think they're comedy geniuses for giving joke replies to people asking serious questions and then never actually giving an answer, maybe I wouldn't mind spending more time looking all this up because internet lore like this is kinda fun to read about, if 
ors stopped being such dorks and making it so much harder than it needs to be. I know there have been like mod team overthrows on r/195 related subreddits when ML's try to make their own versions of those subs, and then overthrowing modteams in response, etc. etc.
I know @Awoo@hexbear.net has been pretty involved with moderating a lot of ML subreddits over the years so I bet she might know more about that specific drama that I'm talking about
it's gotta be for the same reason there was a /r/chapotraphouse2_2_2 or whatever, right? because somebody thought it was funny?
I think maybe it's for people who didn't like the environment of r/196 so probably transphobes? I don't really know though
I honestly know very little about the behind the scenes of 196. Their group is insular and has never participated in almost any of the common backrooms, and I've not been personally involved in any dramas related to them so.
My understanding of 195 was just that they closed after getting to a certain subscriber number.
Sorry I can't be of more help. I basically gave up on the space due to anticommunism, any space with anticommunism has always become fash-adjacent, it's just a matter of time. So I didn't waste my time with any of it.