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this post was submitted on 10 Apr 2025
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Girls I was at school with used to get picked up by guys in cars when they were like 12 and 13 so those guys were at least 17. At 17 I wouldn't have wanted to hang out with a 12 or 13 year old girl.
This particular friend of mine was obsessed with older men and getting any kind of attention for men she definitely had gotten into cars with strangers, met up with a random men, etc.. I don’t think anything bad ever happened to her, but she was lucky In that instance. She wasn’t so lucky because she ended up getting addicted to drugs and overdosed and died In her early 20s.
Sorry to hear that. I also lost a friend to addiction who's experiences with older men in her formative years were unfortunately quite negative, which sent her down the addiction spiral and made her seek out more experiences with older men. Those experiences and the addiction both, I believe, ultimately stemmed from her father's actions. His own addiction and abusive, neglectful behaviour being a result of trauma in his early life. I can't speak to your friend's past of course but I imagine men and substances filled a hole in her own life likely left by a similar generational trauma and abuse cycle.
I’m sorry to hear that. Looking back, I suspect it was probably the same or similar with my friend, but I was too young to see or understand it and her and I are coming from upper class neighborhood. These things would be brushed under the rug, not talked about not believed, etc..