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What were you surprised to learn wasn't actually normal?
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Excruciating period pain that would leave me fainting and vomiting every. Single. Time.
"Every girl goes through this" said the doctor, convincing my parents that I was just "dramatic".
Turns out I had huge polyps growing out of control! Left scarring in my uterus and high-risk when pregnant.
Dealt with that hell every fucking month since I was 11 until I got onto birth control in my 20s.
My wife went through something similar. Took until she was in her 30s and we were pursuing IVF for someone to take her seriously and actually do the investigation to realize she had crazy scarring from endometriosis causing all kinds of issues.
It's insane to me how much the modern medical community seems to normalize or straight up ignore this shit, like you said.
I realize we could have pushed harder, but when multiple doctors tell you "yeah, some women just experience periods differently, here's 500mg Naproxen to help you through" you tend to believe it.
Poor you! It must have been terribly frustrating that the doctor wouldn't take you seriously. Seems to be a frequent thing women go through in the medical world. Hope you're okay now.
Thank you.
Birth control was my savior and actively allowed me enjoy life again. ๐
Sucks when doctors just assume things, it can cost lives.
It's barbaric. They assume that if you're girl/woman, most problems are basically "female hysteria"!
Not even "it could be [blank], you might want to keep an eye on that and report back if it doesn't go away." Nope! Diagnosis: dramatic.
And women die from this shit. Or become disabled / handicapped. Or it affects their long-term future if they want children. It's awful.
Some people did a thing with a specially configured tens machine where the woman would turn it the levels up and up until it was at the level of their normal period pain and then the man would go through the same levels stages and be gasping and writhing before it got there.
Turns out men have been massively underestimating period pain for centuries.
That said, some women experienced far, far higher levels than normal and were encouraged to take that data to a non-dismissive healthcare professional.
As a dude, I want to believe that it's less than it is because that's just wholly unreasonable that women have to put up with that.
They're were a lot of men who insisted on immediate medical attention who got told that their partners had tried that and absolutely nothing would come of it.