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Why we’ve fallen out of love with dating apps
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this post was submitted on 15 May 2025
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I have been on and off dating apps for over 10 years. I witnessed what they did to them.
Enshittification to the maximum. Sites literally REMOVED useful functions and put others behind paywalls. You used to be able to set tags of interests and search by tags as well to find people into the same things as you, but that stops you from swipe swipe swipe swipe swipe... Swipe swipe is time spent on the app which increases the chance you start feeling desperate and pay them for the increased functionality of... Seeing who likes you... Other sites used to let you actually browse who was near you, not swipe, but have a list of people to look through. That's not swipe swipe swipe pulling the dopamine lever so gotta give it the axe.
I mostly blame Match Group. Any dating site that actually worked well was bought by them and stripped down to be tinder 2.0 clones.
The more difficult it is to use the more likely they are to get you feeling desperate which is how they get you to pay up. No thanks.
okcupid was amazing back then, I wrote with so many interesting people and had unique and lengthy conversations. Another platform fucked up by capitalism and greed.
It's definitely fuck the Match Group all day every day.