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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end?
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this post was submitted on 09 Jun 2025
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Saw a similar thread on reddit recently.
Overwhelming majority stated it was cheating, followed by cheating and boozing, followed by money issues.
It seems people can eormt through a lot but cheating is just kills it, which makes sense. Since after that there ain't much of a team left lol
The reddit hivemind gets triggered by the very idea of cheating. As far as I know, there was no cheating in my marriage and eventual divorce, but it didn't matter to me if he cheated or not. It mattered to him that I didn't cheat, so I didn't. From my point of view, I'd have a problem if he was spending all his free time with someone else instead of helping with the house, chores, relationship, and so on, but random sex was fine by me -- as long as it didn't result in pregnancy or become a full-blown relationship.
Years ago I read some paper about how humans have two primary and competing reproductive strategies: monogamy versus promiscuouness. It theorized that cultures tend to codify monogamy as the standard to follow because its proponents get very hostile to the promiscuous whereas the promiscuous do not much care what the monogamous do.