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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end?
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this post was submitted on 09 Jun 2025
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Completely incompatibility between views of the world. It can sound a civilised realisation, but the process to discover that was very messy with lots of frustration that started to compromise the mutual admiration and respect along few years.
Today I only wish good things to my ex-wife and I truly don't hold any bad feeling, but equally I don't want to see her ever again in my life.
That sounds like something that would be apparent from the get-go, no?
Sounds like the maga movement got her, like it has already destroyed so many friendships and torn families apart.
I lost a few friends over politics but the one that surprised me the most was my best friend of over 35 years. 2 years ago it started, then he didn't speak to me for a whole year then the night Trump won, I just messaged him our friendship is done.
I considered him my brother, we talked at least twice a week, and honestly he was more liberal than even I was, but sometime during COVID the manosphere got him. And the friend I knew was no more.
Now I really don't have a social circle of male friends , just spend my time with my wife and daughter
Although very plausible when talking about MAGA, it was not our political opinions that raised the issues. I value to travel and have different experiences over house, car, fancy clothes. I am also very concerned about the future and I prefer to be sometimes bored at home and save money than do things that I don't see as important. She has the exactly opposite opinion and we could not compromise. The things got worse when I started to wish to move abroad for a while and she didn't buy also didn't say no.
Don't get me wrong: I have my good share of things to blame, specially by being inflexible with my opinions.
Hindsight is always 20/20
Clearly not, right?