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submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by frithwyn@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

What advice would you give to a girl turning 14 in 3 months? Basically things you wish you knew while you were 14.

Edit: I'm going into 11th or 12th grade by September. Due to my Country's education system. Any advice for that would be appreciated too. Thanks

Thank you all for the advice ๐Ÿ˜Š

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[-] temporal_spider@beehaw.org 5 points 3 days ago

You will meet many men in your life, and some of them are going to be wonderful. In fact, there will be men who are wonderful in ways you don't even realize until much later.

But there are also entirely too many creeps, and unfortunately, you have to have some ugly experiences to really get a sense of who is and who isn't a good guy. Especially watch out for older men, especially ones who flatter you and tell you how beautiful and mature you are. These guys are everywhere, and girls your age are their prime fixation. If you are careful and lucky, you can learn to spot them without becoming their victim, and without getting pregnant or married.

You've seen those nature shows where the baby sea turtles hatch on shore and have to make it to the water before the hungry birds devour them? You're a little turtle now. Just focus on the water (your goals for your future,) and don't let the bastards gobble you up.

As I've seen too many young girls fall into that particular trap, have high standards for your relationships and keep an eye out for people that try to control you and isolate you from your friends and family. If you have someone you trust, talk to them and ask for advice, as it's entirely too easy to get blinded by love and realize too late someone is not good for you, but a good friend or relative can usually see that from a mile away.

[-] frithwyn@lemmings.world 1 points 3 days ago

Thanks for the advice ๐Ÿ™

[-] frithwyn@lemmings.world 4 points 3 days ago

Thank you. I've met alot of creeps already lol

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