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on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
I'm tired of this bullshit attitude. It contributes to the very issues it diminishes. Men are allowed to have problems without being incels.
It's not all men's fault, but there are things you can do increase your chances. If your problem is that you never shower, then who is going to date you?
Way to trivialize the issue, dumbass. If it were as simple as showering, the mean critique would be "smelly" men, not "lonely incels". Way to completely and utterly fail to understand that it is an emotional problem, not a physical one.
Ok, what is the emotional problem?
For example, if you easily get upset and attack other people for little reason, then who is going to date you?
If it is that you get sad sometimes, lots of people would date you.
There are far more emotions than "mad" and "sad", so no wonder you cannot fathom the depths of this problem.
Fascinating, you seem to be telling me there is a problem with my though process, but instead of just telling me specifically what it is, you choose to insult me instead of answering my basic questions.
Is this the emotional problem you have?
There are literally hundreds of posts already made right here on this post explaining things further. So again, if you cannot understand the implications of me saying, "there are more than two emotions", then perhaps you are simply too immature to understand it in the first place.
For your own good, grow up and learn what the word "nuance" means.
I have nuance, I have not claimed there were only two emotions. I gave an example of only two emotions. I know there are more than two. I just decided not to write them all out because they are uncountably many of them. That is also why I asked you, what specific emotional problem we are dealing with. So that we could get specific.
This is peak
"Well if you dont want to be homeless you should get a job"
Energy.
No, it's more of "If you want to increase the probability of being in a relationship, you can work on yourself." energy.
"If you don't want to be homeless just get a job to get money and then rent a place to live"
See how that's overly reductive to the point of it being a useless thing to add?
I am not saying you WILL get a partner if you work on yourself. I am saying it will increase the possibility of getting a partner if you work on yourself. I am also not saying that getting a partner is completely within your control. There are societal factors that make it hard these days to get a partner.
The problem with “If you don’t want to be homeless just get a job to get money and then rent a place to live” is that it implies you will get a place to live if you get a job. Which is not true.
maybe that's what you were intending to convey, but that is not at all what comes across.
How could I have been more clear?