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on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
I cannot fucking wait for the day Lemmy ships the "blocking an instance removes its users from comment threads" feature.
There are plenty of good people on .world. Being tribalist over a few ignorant takes is absolutely assinine and is the exact kind of thought process they are using against lonely men. Do better if you're so wise as to understand the loneliness epidemic.
What is this place anyhow? I get pushback on .world for telling feminists that men's problems won't be fixed if they understand the patriarchy harder, and here people are defensive of the notion that politics made some men really shitty.
Did a bunch of lonely men end up here instead of lemmy world?
You are making the mistake of anthropomorphising communities. There are no singular trains of thought here. There are just people of many sorts posting messages for others to read. Full stop.
The only instances that might warrant some anthropomorphizing are those with stated goals and admin approved joining. That is the only condition a singular identity of some sort should be expected to arise.
The only sort of unifying factor for lemmy is "not reddit", which includes nerds of many sorts, leftists of ALL sorts (which is its own entire topic of how freaking diverse that is), and the few who simply want to try a different media that's like reddit.
You seem to be using politics as a cudgel against men instead of attempting to understand the social forces that are creating this problem in the first place. There are forces that push ignorant men to those politics you're so fond of making fun of. Forces that come before the politics.
You can pretend to not understand all you want, but your ignorance won't be tolerated for long here.
Yeah ok but you are not immune from having a local culture sorry
so is it like the subset of leftists that isn't outright commie?
yes, because using the cudgel is preferable to endlessly theorizing
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the problem isn't the good people on .world.
the problem is the endless horde of dipshits on .world who need to do a lot more detox from shithole social media like reddit, and stop spewing their ignorance into every comment section they infest in the meantime.
since they won't stop doing that shit at anywhere near the rate necessary for me to enjoy & derive value from this place, I will be removing them from my default experience the instant that option becomes available to me.
it's on the good people of .world to either help their compatriots self-improve, or find a less shitty instance. because when it comes right down to it, there are a hell of a lot of good people not on .world for me to talk to, and that's plenty. the ones who stay indefinitely on a shitty instance are not irreplaceable. not by a long shot.
We're not compatriots, you tribalistic buffoon. We're random people on the internet. I've met just as many idiots and trolls from other instances, but you don't hear me screeching at random users to fix other users... You're anthropomorphising of instances is pathetically small-brained, frankly.
I think you're funny, spewing your impotent frustration. At least I actually want men to man up.