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on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
Nobody here is arguing that Trump supporters or stinky men who only care about women for sex deserve to have partners.
It's just that you and the OP don't acknowledge that finding a partner is hard for a lot of men who aren't jerks and have a reasonable amount going for them and the implication is that it's own fault and they must be a dick.
If you flip the genders and make a statement like: "if a woman can't find a decent man it must be their own fault. It's easy, just go and take up some male dominated hobbies and take a shower." Its an asshole thing to say, no?
So how about we try not to be assholes and have some empathy.
I have acknowledged it multiple times
I've looked and I don't really see that you have. You seem pretty dismissive of the fact that this group actually exists and quick to jump to attacking maga cultists and gross men who disrespect women - who nobody here is sticking up for.
Did you look two comments up when I said
“ The idea that men are struggling to find friends is a real concern that should be addressed”
Yes. There you're addressing friendship and in the rest of the comment you imply that its easy to find a partner by meeting a very low bar.
“ It’s not that they can easily find a partner if they meet a few requirements it’s that lacking those requirements makes dating much harder ”