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on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
You know that's not what I mean by social anxiety. Even the fact that you put it in quotation marks makes it sound like you don't believe anxiety can be a genuine reason to have never dated. I have social anxiety. I am a man. I've never dated. Therefore, you will now assume I'm a fascist who hates women, stalks women, is violent towards women. You will also assume that my social anxiety (or "social anxiety", as you say) is a lie, a cover for the way you assume I act.
I'm not making excuses for actual fascists or actual men who do the things you mentioned above. I am, however, against this idea that men who struggle dating MUST do those things because there's, supposedly, no other explanation. Do the men you describe exist? Sure. Attacking any men not in a relationship is where I draw the line.