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on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
Big mood. Not to try and jerk myself off about the cinventionally attractive part. But yeah modern dating has become so processed and transactional. As man it feels like you have to put so much work in and practically beg for a bit of time from someone thats git so many options that theyve started to objectify you and are basically just looking for any reason to pass on you and move on to the next person.
And then dating in person isnt much better. I never ever want to be the creepy guy that hits on a girl when shes just trying to enjoy herself, so unlesss a woman approaches me, ehich very rarely happens, im not finding someone that way.
And then dating from freinds has a lot of the same issues, i currently have a freind that i would date, shes given me some signals that she might feel the same way, but possibly also signals the complete opposite and since shes one of my closest freinds i dont want to risk ruining that freindship taking that shot.
Do it anyway. If she's really a good friend, it won't ruin the friendship.
Also the odds are high that you're going to wish you did later.