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on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
I’ve experienced crippling social anxiety In person and major depression but at 40 have found that connecting with a few people that I share the same interests with has been the biggest de-lonelifier.
It isn’t even a deep connection necessarily, we don’t talk about private stuff very much but we are just comfortable talking and sharing gaming, watching sports together etc.
I think if I didn’t have the small group of people I spend time with on Discord (voice and screen share) I would feel this loneliness much deeper.
It’s all just luck in finding the right people though. I can’t say I tried to find this group I just never turned down getting to know people and the pandemic meant Discord was the only way to interact.
The main point is it might not be “intimate” connection and more a comfortable connection where you can just spend time doing the usual things you like to do together. But computer gaming is unique in that way. I think voice chats with people you have stuff in common with is one way to find something if someone is looking for it. But complaining on message boards is not the same as talking with someone.