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on the male loneliness epidemic
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
That is part of it for people who desperately need external validation, but if it was the only element no one would bother with prostitutes, VR porn, and sex dolls at all. Heck, if that was enough more men probably would be content to just be "friend zoned" because friendship is very validating.
In reality though its existential and experiential. Its men wanting to experience something extremely pleasurable and contentment bringing (and consistently) before they take their final dirtnap. Its fear of missing out on a major life experience of being in a sexual relationship for key parts of their lives (20's and 30's). Every day they're single they experience the fear of their youthful years slipping away and missing out on some of the most fulfilling and fun activities a human can participate in.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. I’ll think about it more for sure, but I still very much wonder if there is more to it. Vr porn and dolls and ai girlfriends and the rest of it, i feel, rarely leave the users fulfilled so i wonder if there might be a hierarchy of needs here. But i dont disagree that there is certainly a special place for intimacy around the 20s and 30s where this is especially important