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Not trying to be sexist, but why does it matter shes a woman on this forum in the first place? It sucks, but there are places on the internet where just stating you're a woman gets you extra attention or help from desperate men. So maybe the forum is just tired of people coming on, stating their a woman whether true or not, and getting help way quicker than if no gender was to be said at all?
I know it paints me in a bad light but whatever, there is no reason to go on the internet and state your gender unless you're looking for extra attention. Your friend could have just asked the question and left out gender talk completely. There was no need to state she was a woman.
I know this a pretty sexist example, but viva la dirt league put out a gaming video explaining why some guys are over it.
Did you read the post? They misgendered her unknowingly and she corrected them, which is perfectly normal. That then became 17 pages of misgendering.
Not on a car forum. That's straight up asking for trouble.
Ok, but isn't that the problem? Expecting misogyny and accepting misogyny are not the same.
Like, if you knew someone who was racist, and then they assumed you were their race, and you corrected them that you were not, and then they start in with bigotry and shit, that doesn't make you the problem, even if you did know that he was a bigot and going to be shitty and hateful.
Nobody should have to pretend to be something they aren't to avoid harassment.
I’m not justifying it - just explaining why it happens. If you walk into a male-dominated space and start lecturing people about gender pronouns, this is the reaction you’re going to get. If they’d stuck to talking about cars, it wouldn’t have happened in the first place.
It’s also worth noting that some languages don’t have gendered pronouns at all - Finnish, for example. We use the same pronoun for men and women, so when I say “he” in English, I might be referring to a man or just a person in general. I know that’s not grammatically correct in English, but for me - and probably for a lot of others - “he” doesn’t automatically mean male. It’s just how the pronoun from our native language maps over.
Listen, lady, if you're ok with men talking down to you because you lack testosterone, then I'm not going to tell you how to live.
I thought I was being perfectly polite in my response. I don't understand how this place can be so full of jerks.
Come on, dude. Mentioning my gender has only ever gotten me harassment.