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[-] papertowels@mander.xyz 98 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Also, when people say meet others at college they don't mean in the classes, especially not in the lecture halls lol. They mean in the social events...

[-] howrar@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 hours ago

Don't they? The culture might be different in different schools or different generations, but I've made quite a few friends just by chatting with people in the lecture halls before class.

[-] The_v@lemmy.world 48 points 1 day ago

I was pretty shy when I started college and have always disliked social events. I skipped a few years in highschool so I was young when I started. Combined with working 30+ hours a week to pay for college and my social life was pretty dead.

My junior/senior year I decided to sit next to the most beautiful woman in class on day one. I would then smile, say hello, and leave them alone. Then smile, say goodbye at the end of class and leave.

A few weeks of this and most of them started talking to me a bit before or after class. By mid-terms I was friendly with a few beautiful women and had a couple dates. The last quarter of my senior year, I sat down next to my now wife.

I did get called out by my wife on knowing so many beautiful women when we were dating. She was a bit annoyed but I did sit down next to her after all.

[-] papertowels@mander.xyz 5 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

My friend group was always on the nerdier side in high school. One thing I'm really glad we did come senior year was we'd play poker, and the loser, if single, would be have to go and ask a random gal out on a date (with the rest of the group trying-yet-failing to act casual hanging out nearby to make sure it happened lol)

It's liberating to know that, as long as you're not being a creep, you can just talk to someone you think is cute and ask them out. It was especially nice to know back in the high school days lol.

Wholesome ending.

Though, I am a bit confused by

I skipped a few years in highschool

Did your high school have more than 4 years? When I think of "a few," I think "at least 3," but skipping 3 out of 4 years doesn't sound right.

[-] The_v@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

2.5 years. So is it a couple or a few? I started college when I turned 16.

I ended up being a burned out after my 2nd year in college and I turned 18. I had also amassed some savings by working so much. So I bought a ticket to Europe and bummed around for a couple years. When I started back up I was the same age as everyone else.

[-] Cethin@lemmy.zip 13 points 23 hours ago

Generally, yes, but if you're a pleasant person to be around you can easily get things going from lectures as well. You just need to strike up a conversation like a normal person and be friendly. The problem most of these people have is they treat women like something to be won, when instead they're just people.

[-] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 4 points 20 hours ago

Wish I was normal. I am WAY too socially awkward to start a conversation. Usually I need at least a couple of hours to warm up to somebody.

[-] frostedtrailblazer@lemmy.zip 2 points 15 hours ago

I feel I get that way when I’m out of practice for too long. These days, I just need a bit of coffee and I’m usually good to go with some light small talk lol.

[-] Cethin@lemmy.zip 2 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

How do you warm up to someone without having a conversation?

[-] papertowels@mander.xyz 7 points 17 hours ago

Stare them straight in the eye while hip thrusting

[-] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago

Agreed, I made lifelong friends in my college anime club.

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