Ukraine wants to join NATO because post-Euromaidan coup the far-right Banderites were put into power deliberately by the west in order to create a millitary foothold right on Russia's doorstep. Yanukovych was coup'd for picking the Russian loan over the western loan, the reasoning being that the Russian loan did not require privatization of safety nets like healthcare while the western loan did, freeing up avenues for western capitalists to plunder. Saber-rattline about Russian invasion is what caused Ukraine to violate both Minsk I and II, which were last-ditch efforts to resolve the growing conflict diplomatically.

I blame the west more than anything. Without the Euromaidan coup, Yanukovych would have remained, safety nets would not be privatized and Ukraine would not be a glorified gangster-state where the Kiev regime has a habit of oppressing ethnic Russians within their borders through measures like language suppression. Without NATO, there would not be a means to develop a millitary foothold on Russia's doorsteps with missiles pointed right at their cities. Without western imperialism, there would be no need for NATO, as NATO soley exists as an alliance of the world's imperialist powers to retain their privledged positions as world plunderers.

I ask that you try to actually look at the last decades that have built up to the war to see why it is happening, as we can know how we should best support it ending. The only reason it would make sense for Ukraine to continue fighting is if this was an existential conflict, but there's no real evidence pointing to that. On the contrary, there's mountains of evidence pointing to Russia's aims being exactly what they have stated: the 4 oblasts, NATO neutrality, and Kiev to stop oppressing ethnic Russians within their borders.