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this post was submitted on 23 Aug 2025
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I fear being a nuisance to anybody so I rarely ask for help, even if it’s their job. 6/10 for that, it has improved.
If it’s just for the sake of being social, then it’s a 9/10. If I don’t have obvious common ground with people it’s nearly impossible for me.
Few years back I was invited to a party of a friend where I knew no one but her (and she was super busy). The people there were just so different to me, I could not find a conversation starter and was honestly not really interested in their lives anyways. It was a horrible time and I left early.
But somehow, once I find the right hook I can be quite charming and funny and even sometimes the center of attention, even around strangers. 2/10. It really depends on the situation, vibe and people.
But even if it’s going very well, my social battery runs low after some hours and I need alone time. The less effort I need to put in the longer I can go.