what does it mean being nice to your coworkers to you? (linux.community)

submitted 7 months ago by vestmoria@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3368394

and how do you deflect prying questions about you and limit these rituals to 2 minutes instead of wasting 30 minutes?

asking as somebody who, if not on the spectrum, is socially awkward, likes solitude, boundaries and to be left alone (to do the job)

I still believe none of your answers is going to help me because neurotypical solutions don't work for me but I have nothing to lose with this question.

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[-] infjarchninja@lemmy.ml 2 points 7 months ago

Im an old therapist and I always recommend the power of silence.

I'm not nice to my co-workers. I am courteous, professional and set boundaries.

If someone asks me a private question about my life, family, children or anything I consider personal. I just remain silent.

Silence is simple. It take no brain power, whereas trying to think of ways to deflect questions will be stressful.

It is not written in stone that I have to answer questions. Silence is a powerful tool.

I never get into justifying to anyone why I do not want to share my personal stuff. Its personal for a reason.

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