How do you get yourself to do anything? (feddit.org)

submitted 3 days ago by WhatGodIsMadeOf@feddit.org to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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Like... How do you do things that are good for you and necessary?

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[-] GrantUsEyes@lemmy.zip 27 points 3 days ago

I need accountability, the threat of failing someone looming over my head. Oh... You mean good for me. Nevermind ᕕ(ᐛ)ᕗ I hadn' t read the complete question

[-] WhatGodIsMadeOf@feddit.org 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Accountability doesn't even work for me.

But then again I've never had someone bring on accountability that wasn't a negative asshole. I could see it helping if they were positive.

[-] python@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I've seen an interesting talk by Russell Barkley recently where he said that accountability only doesn't work for ADHD behaviour modification if it's delayed. Which, most social accountability kinda is - "You forgot that we were going to go somewhere, I just silently won't invite you next time".
So what he suggested is that you should take on more accountability than normal people, and make sure that consequences hit you immediately, otherwise your brain, with its limited short-term memory, just won't correlate behavior and consequence and not learn from it.

Don't really remember what else was in that talk, but what I took out of it is that my husband gets a water bottle and can spritz me down like a cat if he sees me procrastinating or getting too sidetracked while getting ready for something. I'm not happy about it, but it's very effective.