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Sorry I typed a lot, so I get if you don't want to read my whole post lol.

I recognize the irony of asking this on a super online forum, but with the introduction of Sora AI and the AI getting harder and harder to detect, I'm getting to the place where I'm personally think I need to start fortify my mind and start to unplug from big tech and the internet more.

I'm starting to build my own NAS to self host media that I curate. For me, my digital plan to ward off the brain rot is easy: RSS feeds, email newsletters, and self-hosting and getting off big social media platforms (YouTube is gonna be hard , ngl; I legit have a YT addiction...)

But for the IRL offline piece, I don't even know where to start. I spent the vast majority of my life by myself on computers (entering my mid-20s). Because I have neglected building social relationships, I'm so socially inept, lol. I'm starting from zero. Like, I know for older folks and more offline zoomers, this might sound dumb asking, but if you are more comfortable being by yourself alone on a screen, dealing with the real world and ppl unpredictability is hard knowing where to start.

I'm out of college, and grad school is too expensive, lol. It's crazy to think just 20 years ago ppl lives were completely different. And with the direction the internet is going, it just getting filled with bots, slop, and ragebait, I recognize I need to better use my time on earth, but it's hard when most of my life I've spent online in front of screens. Like, I'm kind of a bit agoraphobic,(not completely; I go to office when required, though), and WFH and all the internet conveniences make staying indoors so easy and attractive (amazon, walmart, streaming, porn). I was listening to my favorite podcast and they said "We need to make real life more enticing than the internet." And that really stuck with me.

Our brains have been hijacked by big tech to keep our eyeballs on their platforms for profit. and with the AI stuff, the level of fakeness I cannot personally tolerate, and I dunno if the combo of just me getting older and becoming dissatisfied with my life and all that is causing me to seek advice from strangers on the internet to help inform some changes lol.

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Eg. How to Build a New Habit: This is Your Strategy Guide https://jamesclear.com/habit-guide

  1. Start with an incredibly small habit.
  2. Increase your habit in very small ways.
  3. As you build up, break habits into chunks.
  4. When you slip, get back on track quickly.
  5. Be patient. Stick to a pace you can sustain.

And try to combine it with a daily recurrent activity Eg Every morning I turn on my computer (recurrent activity) Goal: (just random goal) i want to be able to run 5km So for the first 6 months i put on running shoes when i turn on my computer (maybe you have your complete running outfit on after 6 months, but if it takes 6 months for your shoes only then so be it)

Ow and it is hard and it takes time!

You need a mental goal and write it down. Visualize your end goal. Make it SMART. Prepare and work out what if scenarios. And get help like a personal trainer, coach or a group so you can share your struggle and your success!

Good luck, you got this! Aim for the moon but baby steps

this post was submitted on 10 Oct 2025
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