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Best friend of 2 years turned out to be toxic.
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It sounds like your "friend" is a malignant narcissist. You're better off with her out of your life. The fact that you've had one in your life tells me that there is a good probability that you've had another person on the narcissism spectrum in your life, likely a parent, and that you need to learn how to recognize narcissists and their abusive tactics, learn to set strong boundaries. Here's something to get you started: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2016/06/20-diversion-tactics-highly-manipulative-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-to-silence-you/
LOL, no. A malignant narcissist would be keeping OP around to abuse in order to make themselves feel better. Sounds like she just told OP to get fucked and that was that. We don't know anything else.
The typical narcissist relationship cycle goes from idealization, to devaluation, and then discard. However, often after discard there will be an effort to suck the victim back in (the "hoover"). Also, we do know more. Specifically, that she told OP to kill herself, knowing that she is suicidal, and also that she derives pleasure from OP's negative, painful reactions. This clearly shows a lack of empathy, a key characteristic of a malignant narcissist.