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What was the worst date you went on?
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Back in college, a female friend hooked me up on a blind date with her friend. Hands down she was the cutest girl I'd been on a date with at that point in my life.
After some back and forth it ends up being a double date, which was no big deal. But it was with a random engaged couple I didn't know. Which was fine. But they picked Macarroni Grill or Cheesecake Factory or similar restraunt on a Friday evening. It was like an hour and a half wait. The couple wanted to wait, there was a mall nearby, so the other couple went off by themselves shopping and left us alone.
So, for the next hour or so I tried my hardest to engage in conversation with this girl. I've lost count of how many first dates I've been on. My small talk/get to know you banter is solid. But it was no match for her lack of social skills and one word answers.
I tried everything and ran dry WELL before the couple finished shopping and we actually started the meal. We sat on a bench and I'd break the awkward silence with the occational: "So, see any good tv/movies lately?" Only to get a "Not really" back. Or "What sort of hobbies do you have?" "None really".
She didn't come off as disinterested or bored. It felt like she wanted to be there, but if we were a ven diagram the only overlap would have been our mutual friend.
It was the most painful 3 hr date of my life.
I've met people like this. They literally... do nothing. They seem to aspire to be empty inside and outside.
And they think people who have interest/hobbies/friends are 'weird'.
Same. I cant stand boring people! Like you think theyd be depressed at how boring they are
I mean, it very likely is depression.
Oh that does remind me of an experience. I can normally make people laugh when I crank up the charm but o boy this person was not having it. Just hated to be alive and wanted to run away to a third world country to teach yoga or something. Normally you would pass on a second date but for a 10/10 hotness scale I had to know if it was a bad day or something. So we met up one more time at a comedy club. Dead face whole time not a single laugh. Meanwhile abs hurt from all the laughing. Then got a we dont have chemistry text later 🤣.
Dude I had a very similar experience. I got literally nothing from her for 2 hours, and then when the date was over I just left and said well goodbye.
Later got a series of messages from her friend asking me why I was so rude and disinterested.
It's like bitch, I must have spoken 200,000 words that date, and the chick spoke 200.
Like what am I supposed to do, just talk in your ear for the whole relationship or like what's going to happen here... fuck this.
Oh absolutely. I spoke with the mutual friend after and she was being all coy asking me if I was going to ask the girl out on a second date. Hard Pass.
She looked a little sad, I think the date girl had a nice time and was willing to go out again, but I explained my perspective from the date, and the mutual friend reluctantly understood.
Mutual friend never explained why the date girl acted like that. If it was just shy nerves, I probably would have given her another chance, but that's probably just how she is.
princess entitlement. she's mad you didn't salivate all over her for just existing. probably said you were 'low effort' for not taking her to a more expensive place too.
strong incel vibes