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Do you believe that to love is a choice?
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The word "love" is used in a number of distinct senses. Some aren't a matter of volition - I love a nice glass of Merlot or a mug of ale with dinner, and I can choose day-to-day whether or not to indulge that taste - but I didn't choose the preference itself. It just is.
In another sense, love is measured in the time and effort you spend on someone's happiness. If I say I love my kids but I don't ever make time to bond with them and demonstrate what it means to be the parent they want and need - then yes we should question if that's really love.