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I'm becoming overwhelmingly materialistic
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this post was submitted on 25 Dec 2025
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You seem aware that the shopping and appearance is a coping mechanism (an expensive, short-lived one) but don't yet know what to replace it with?
People use all sorts of coping mechanisms, some better than others... Anything to do with connection, creativity, support is very healthy. You can do that while looking good, too!
I hope you eventually get to feel valued even without having to earn it.
If you view this as a coping mechanism, then there has to be an uncomfortable emotion that triggers it. Some emotions are too difficult to face and process, which results in resorting to this coping mechanism. It’s clearly not a long term solution, so it would be useful to figure out what those triggering emotions are.