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How do you meet new people ?
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I do though, check my other comment above. I understand introvert is different from anxiety. I wasn’t talking to the introverts, this was help for the anxious people. I’m not an introvert so I wouldn’t know how to help introverts become more extroverted.
Don't listen to your anxiety isn't particularly helpful and is much easier said than done. If you can just say "fuck it" and do it, then great for you 👍 but don't pretend that's viable advice for the general anxious population. When talking to people and being overstimulated gets you so anxious you start hysterically crying and vomitting saying "fuck it" and doing it anyways isn't going to help.
As I said above, you need to do this in steps depending on severity and being as comfortable as possible. ERP does work and is clinically shown to work very fucking well for anxiety. It is viable advice because within 3 months of ERP data shows the average % reduction of symptoms for people is 70% with a standard deviation of 5%. That means 95% of people will fall in between 60% to 80% better with their symptoms and a further 99.7% of people will fall within 3 standard deviations of the mean (55-85% better). But if you don’t want to get better and you want your anxiety to control you I don’t care, but if you do, come back to this comment or (ideally) go seek help from a professional to help guide you through ERP. ERP is hard and overcoming crippling anxiety is incredibly hard I know, I’ve dealt with it, but I’ve put a lot of work into getting better and I think others deserve to know how to do it. If you have autism on top of anxiety idk how to help you this is only for anxious people as I have said before.
You also seem to think that because you did it anyone can,and that's not how it works. Do you think people like living this way or something? Of course people want to get better,but getting help certainly isn't as easy as "fuck it, let's go". Who can even afford to do any of those things?
That is how it works, I just gave you the stats with success rates, maybe it was confusing let me know. Affording it is another thing. So for me I am working from home (huge help for this) and have insurance that is okay at best. I have my therapy completely covered however because I have it in my medical files as a disability certified by 3 docs. It’s a process I know, and I also know some people are too young to do this on their own and need their parents to help. And we all know parents can be… difficult. There are resources though, check out NOCD, or NAMI. NAMI is a religious affiliated organization, but it doesn’t really effect it. If you need more help/advice DM me. I will do my best to direct you. I don’t know if DM are available on lemmy lol but give it a shot
I get what you're saying but you know it doesn't hurt to try things right? I tried lots of different things to help with my anxiety before I got somewhere with it.
I never said it did, I'm just saying that that bar is a lot harder for some people to reach and it very obviously isn't as simple as "fuck it". Some people need outside intervention before they are able to get the help they need. And again, there's the fact that all of the things that help cost enormous amounts of money or are completely unavailable. The original commenter makes it sound as if anyone can just go and get help as long as they themselves can gather the courage but that is simply untrue.
Also, I'm not someone who can't go out, I have a job that I attend daily and people I interact with regularly.
I mean, I helped myself and that didn't cost me a dime and I certainly never got much help from any therapists I actually paid.
Like I said, people should just be more open to trying things.