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Off My Chest
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I am looking for mods!
1. The "good" part of our community means we are pro-empathy and anti-harassment. However, we don't intend to make this a "safe space" where everyone has to be a saint. Sh*t happens, and life is messy. That's why we get things off our chests.
2. Bigotry is not allowed. That includes racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, and religiophobia. (If you want to vent about religion, that's fine; but religion is not inherently evil.)
3. Frustrated, venting, or angry posts are still welcome.
4. Posts and comments that bait, threaten, or incite harassment are not allowed.
5. If anyone offers mental, medical, or professional advice here, please remember to take it with a grain of salt. Seek out real professionals if needed.
6. Please put NSFW behind NSFW tags.
It is difficult, absolutely. It comes down to knowing that your personal, healthy boundaries are more important than whatever someone wants to talk at you about. You're never obligated to interact with a person that makes you uncomfortable.
Very sound advice. To be honest, I've just entered my 40s and I've only just figured it out.
Having social phobia fucked me up in a few secondary ways and this is one of them - any conversation/relationship pretty much made me uncomfortable and it took me a long time to be able to separate normal conversations/relationships from the ones with people keen to take advantage of a meek, quiet person.