You tell her "I love you and enjoy spending time with you, but it's starting to make me uncomfortable that you keep pressing the religion and conversion conversation."
Then, if she keeps it up, you cut her loose because she doesn't respect your boundaries.
This is the way, I feel. But sticking to it is difficult.
My best friend Chuck would follow any fad or trend, and he got into amway. He wanted everyone to be in the same club he was getting such validation in. He proselytized like mad. We told him no.
He kept asking and offering and trying to show the pitch videos. We told him no; and that the third time he tried this it'd be the last we saw of him.
I hope he's doing well and broke free of those guys. It's been 28 years, I'm sure. But we haven't spoken to him since a few days after the ultimatum.
It is difficult, absolutely. It comes down to knowing that your personal, healthy boundaries are more important than whatever someone wants to talk at you about. You're never obligated to interact with a person that makes you uncomfortable.
Very sound advice. To be honest, I've just entered my 40s and I've only just figured it out.
Having social phobia fucked me up in a few secondary ways and this is one of them - any conversation/relationship pretty much made me uncomfortable and it took me a long time to be able to separate normal conversations/relationships from the ones with people keen to take advantage of a meek, quiet person.
Tell her about the Sentinelese who haven't yet heard the good news about her Jesus. The problem will be solved.
Ask her which christian god she identifies with and ask her if she'd apologize to the other christian gods for picking the wrong one. Then she can move on to the other abrahamic religions with related but different gods that are apparently worth killing each other over. Then it is time to do a polite check in with the other non-abrahamic world religion gods and pay her respects because I mean what if. And after that it is worth mentioning that the abandoned religions that were the precursors to all variants of christianity might actually be the right one, unless she is prepared to admit that the current one she believes in might also be wrong because it is actually a future evolution that finally got it right...
Of course this is just a smug elaboration to point out the absurdity of the situation.
Personally I'd probably just quietly drop them from my social circle.
Abandon her like the plague
i think its wrong to force your religion onto others. that being said, i do believe in god, but not the church's rules and homophobia. i try not to force my beliefs
You can’t win.
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