I don't understand how anything works. (piefed.social)

submitted 2 days ago by gammaman2004@piefed.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hello. I am new to this platform so I'll keep this brief.

I was essentially raised in a cult with my autistic siblings being the only social circle I had for most of my childhood. I don't understand much of anything and when I act like I do, it gets awkward.

My acting Professor said specificity in charachter work was THE key to a good performance. Now when my classmates don't know an answer, every time, they just say the buzzword... "Uh...specificity?" Everyone laughs. My understanding was that the repetition was the punchline. In actuality, it is a satire of how seriously she takes the craft, since the buzzword often changes.

How can I learn how to socialize with neurotypicals?

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[-] disregardable@lemmy.zip 11 points 2 days ago

You’re doing it. It does not get easier.

[-] gammaman2004@piefed.social 9 points 2 days ago

Do normal ppl just get stuff? I always have to think about it first

[-] hesh@quokk.au 11 points 2 days ago

We all think about it. Some just think about thinking about it more

[-] umbrella@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

yes, kind of

[-] daggermoon@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I'm constantly amazed how normal people can be completely oblivious. We all have our strengths and weaknesses I guess.

[-] Blackfeathr@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

From my understanding as someone who is also neurodivergent, "normal" people seem to be born with an instruction manual built into their brains that lets them socialize without much trouble. Those of us with autism/ADHD/etc were not born with this instruction manual so we have to figure these things out by trial and error.

I'm 36 years old and still learning some things said or actions can be construed as a faux pas. It helps to run it by a close friend who understands you, like "hey, I want to say this to that person, do you think it would come off weird or is it okay?"

I do that a lot with my partner, and it helps.

[-] gammaman2004@piefed.social 4 points 1 day ago

I am in a relationship that's almost a year old. Sometimes I'll offend my partner and it's really hard to figure out what I did but that's an issue NT and neurodivergents experience so I'm not alone I guess

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