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submitted 1 day ago by voytek709@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

So I saw a post on this girl having trouble with her bf and it reminded me of me. I (19NB) am having trouble with my girlfriend Nichole (18F). I dated her a while ago but had trouble with my ex who I still thought about I believe, so I stopped liking her. Now we are together but with problems because apparently I’m in the wrong for wanting to call my best friend and see what he’s up to

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[-] voytek709@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 day ago

I don’t call her at all. We regularly call, me and Max, for 4+ hours maybe 3 at the lowest. I love her because I am attracted to her but I love Max also

[-] kindnesskills@literature.cafe 3 points 20 hours ago

Attraction is not love, not enough for a relationship.

She can tell that you don't care about her enough, but since youre in a relationship you say that you do... so she must be really confused and suffering because she either denies the validity of your relationship or denies what she knows is true about your lack of care for her. Should she trust you or her own senses, you know...

Surely you can see how mean it is to put someone through that? To trap her in a relationship where you don't want to be her actual partner and love all of her?

[-] voytek709@lemmy.ca 1 points 19 hours ago

Yeah, I see that. But to be honest, I only really think about Max, Nichole (my GF) sometimes

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