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this post was submitted on 02 Mar 2026
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I don’t call her at all. We regularly call, me and Max, for 4+ hours maybe 3 at the lowest. I love her because I am attracted to her but I love Max also
Attraction is not love, not enough for a relationship.
She can tell that you don't care about her enough, but since youre in a relationship you say that you do... so she must be really confused and suffering because she either denies the validity of your relationship or denies what she knows is true about your lack of care for her. Should she trust you or her own senses, you know...
Surely you can see how mean it is to put someone through that? To trap her in a relationship where you don't want to be her actual partner and love all of her?
Yeah, I see that. But to be honest, I only really think about Max, Nichole (my GF) sometimes