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Imagine being afraid of the ‘friend zone’ (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Lussy@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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Oh no, my miserable life that’s devoid of any connection and anyone altogether otherwise *at least contains a friend.

What the fuck man, is this a real concern average people have that I’m way too fucking alienated to understand

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[-] stigsbandit34z@hexbear.net 7 points 2 years ago

I also hate it how people in this thread are acting like men can’t control their emotions. Of course you can’t control who you’re attracted to, but you can control whatever comes after

Why are some insinuating that humans are wild animals

[-] macerated_baby_presidents@hexbear.net 10 points 2 years ago

Of course you can’t control who you’re attracted to, but you can control whatever comes after

I find that the easiest way to get over romantic feelings for someone is to stop feeding energy to those emotions by reducing contact with them. That's incompatible with being close friends, at least in the short term. After things didn't work out with a girl I dated, we didn't talk for a month while we worked through things on our own terms, and now we're cautiously building a friendship. I certainly can't turn attraction on and off like a light switch.