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submitted 1 month ago by digdilem@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I've heard this before, but haven't found it the case personally. I started work in manual jobs and messing around with computers was my evening hobby. Many years later, I now do IT as a job (partly from gaining skills from that hobby) but also have continued it as my primary thing to do when I'm not working. I was worried when I changed into this career that my hobby would become too much like work to be enjoyable, but I've not found that.

Is this the same for other people, or am I unusual in doing something in my off hours that's so close to my career? I'm genuinely curious to know if others have found the same or whether they found another hobby.

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[-] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

Can he not be in the kitchen due to work trauma or because you arent doing it like in the kitchen and he feels like it's a wrong workflow?

[-] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

naw, he just has worked in kitchens for over 15 years. If he watches me prep, it just reminds him of work.

[-] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

Understandable.

I just imagine the possible reasons for why
Does your prep annoy him so much because it could be done in X ways faster and with less work but he doesnt want to steal your joy in food prep
or
You remind him in how you work of his trainees and essentially stays quiet to keep the peace at home

Either way, the internet stranger wishes you a good week :)

[-] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

not at all for either of those.

Im trained.. I was trained before I even met him. Im offended you think my knife skills are shit tbh. I don't work in a kitchen anymore, but I have so, idk. Dont assume? It's just like a car mechanic doesnt want to come home and work on cars. He don't wanna come home and cook. Maybe seeing my joy in the kitchen makes him sad. But, like, dont diss my skill, you dont know me.

[-] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

Just so you know, this just came up in converstation with my husband, (losing hobbies because of work). So I read him out what you said, and what I said. He said, "you're better than 80% of the people I work with, that's just some online troll, Im serious you're better than most people I work with, don't listen to people like that".

His loss of love for cooking has nothing to with me. It's three days later bruh and like, don't assume man. Diss my skill, a skill I pride myself in. humphhhh.

[-] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

You took this way too literal.

Look. I'm sorry if I offended you, okay?

[-] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

I took this too literally? lmao

Im not mad, have a good day :)

this post was submitted on 15 Mar 2026
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