Are people using the "All" selector or something? 90% of my experience of other sites is posts like this. Or is it more about users of other instances coming here?

Setting the selector to Local does a lot to de-reddify hexbear, but we still have a bunch of reactionaries barging in here and making the place unsafe for our marginalized comrades. Being one of these, i'm super fucking pissed at all the marketplace of ideas libs who for federation with instances that have a glaringly obvious reactionary presence. I do not think the situation we have rn is in any way tolerable. I known the admins are considerate of these concerns and try to find a solution, and i appreciate that a lot, but this whole fiasco has fucking hurt.

Federation doesn't mean you have to interact with other instances (unless someone is harassing you in which case they should be reported). It's more to "allow" interaction with other instances.

Yeah and i hands down do not want any interaction with instances that follow some shitty free speech paradigm and allow racism and transphobia. I do not want these people to get banned after ruining my mood, i want them to not be here at all, it's a hazard to my well-being. I do not come here to feel worse afterwards, i do not come here to receive microtrauma, i do not come here to lecture white cis dudes about trans women in sports, i do not want to have to worry who'll see and reply to my posts and if i will get to see the reply before the mods delete it, but this is what i'm faced with now.

Instant defederation of these instances is the only way forward. And that's already a compromise, if it were up to me we wouldn't even be federated with lemmygrad.