What is smth toxic in a relationship you should not like but did/do? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 1 year ago by SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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We've all faced aome toxic traits in partners in some relationship. They're supposed to be warning signs but its easy to misinterpret them, what’s yours?

Could be anything from possessiveness or jealousy to argumentativeness or bossiness.

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[-] kurogane@lm.helilot.com 11 points 1 year ago

They would stop replying to any message, be overall unreachable, ghosting me when we planned a getaway at that date.
I assumed they needed space. I'm fine with respecting boundaries, even if it stings nonetheless when you miss them.

But stopping literally existing out of the blue?
How much time do you need? Days, weeks? Should I wait for you to contact me? Should we cancel this weekend?
No way to get an answer. No, nothing.
Just toss a coin and try to find out.

[-] Kissaki@feddit.de 9 points 1 year ago

OP asked about stuff you ended up liking. It doesn't sound like you liked that.

[-] kurogane@lm.helilot.com 8 points 1 year ago

I didn't like the situation, but I still did it because I liked the relationship. I see where is the misunderstanding now. My bad, and thank you

[-] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago

That sounds unbearable, Im sorry. Any chance this person was actually married or in another relationship?

[-] kurogane@lm.helilot.com 6 points 1 year ago

Nope, autistic burnout. Is the reason I stayed, for someone genuinely struggling.
But now I'm out, never ever again.

[-] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago

That's good. Hope you're doimg better.

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