EDIT: Thinking about this a little more, it seems like the admins (or admin?) have a very specific idea of the kind of community they want, and are getting frustrated when everything isn't perfect to their vision, whether that's lemmy code or other instances they are federated with. Then they complain and contribute nothing towards making the fediverse better. I guess what I'm saying is that they really do seem to want a walled garden that's perfect to some idealized community that only exists in their heads, and I don't think communities really work like that.

An old-school forum would hit 100% of their needs (mature software that isn't janky like Lemmy, they have low activity meaning nested comments and activity sorting aren't needed, better moderation tools), but they still have Reddit brainworms and believe forums are technologically inferior to Reddit.