I agree. I raised two sons, and the only thing that kept me sane through their puberty was pragmatism.

I'm not even sure I'd send reminder messages tbh. Learning to deal with the consequences of forgetting stuff is important, better to do it now, while the stakes are low. Imagine her forgetting to pay rent.

They got a phone, they can use the reminder app. If they want the reminder come from a parent for some comfort reason, that should be worth a thanks.

I didn't demand it. I said it's rude not to respond. It's not like I'm punishing her for not doing it.