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Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like?
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In theory? Yes. In reality? No.
Besides all the practical reasons already mentioned, it's simply a question of marketing to get people into it. Which costs money noone wants to pay because it kills the principle of breaking free of corpo-hold. Without marketing you'll end up with the nerds that are already here (majority). And of those, the majority are probably also male.
And on top of that, you might find other people living in NYC but what about smaller cities or even foreign ones? With reddits userbase you probably could, but you don't reach them because they already prefer mainstream-stuff ๐
And of those, the majority are probably also male.
Ok we start with a federated Grindr, then once that takes off we use the network effects to pull in other orientations..
Lol. But... We already have grindr. If I'd be gay, why should i use anything else? ๐
It's still controlled by a single organization, it's not federated, it's not open, it's not Democratic. So if we're trying to bring democracy to more platforms, why not grinder?
Yea but if I'm going on grindr my main desire is dick not democracy. Grindr is much more of a hookup app than a dating one so your trying to market to a customer based blinded by horniness.
Makes it easier to get a MVP working then :)
How much democracy can one expect from a blowjob?
As long as the participants have symmetrical information and are not influenced by a third party, it's very democratic
Actually i don't know shit about grinder. Just that it exists. But as long as it's free (i assume?) and fair, i wouldn't mind. Most platforms are (or end up) squeezing guys for every penny they have in hopes of finding someone. That is a system that disgusts me.
But simply technically: too few nerdy gays to build a federated grinder. And no cash to market it. And every potential gay would just be like "there's already grinder, where is the added benefit?"
Yep. Dating services are hard mode for the network effect, because you need to find a bunch of users that are close to you.
Aye. Would kinda defeat the purpose if there'd be noone near. And the chances that one person near you does also like you is.... Well... Let's say, it sucks for the majority of men.
I'd actually guess the man would leave first most of the time. There's way too many dudes that rely on dragnet mass messaging to anyone they find attractive, to the point where they make it difficult for all the other men.
Aye. Pointless.