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Mike Dulak grew up Catholic in Southern California, but by his teen years, he began skipping Mass and driving straight to the shore to play guitar, watch the waves and enjoy the beauty of the morning. “And it felt more spiritual than any time I set foot in a church,” he recalled.

Nothing has changed that view in the ensuing decades.

“Most religions are there to control people and get money from them,” said Dulak, now 76, of Rocheport, Missouri. He also cited sex abuse scandals in Catholic and Southern Baptist churches. “I can’t buy into that,” he said.

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[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

You say your problem is that they believe things that are unsupported. Is that all, or do you dislike that because you think it leads to practices you don't like?

Such things do of course exist, but they don't constitute the dislike for all religion. Religious beliefs differ wildly and it makes little sense to denounce all of them because some cause problems.

Earlier you said that it wasn't any specific practices that caused you to dislike religion. So, I focused on your problem just with the unsupported beliefs. Now you again bring up specific practices you don't like.

I don't understand what you are even trying to say at this point.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

Faith is a disease. In the faithful who aren't currently hurting anyone, the disease is dormant. They are still infected, and given the right set of circumstances, they will cause harm. A particular variety of the faithful were not putting people at risk, until COVID came around and their faithful infections came to be known as "antivax" and "antimask".

Trying to stop the "specific practices" without inoculating against faith is like trying to stop the spread of typhoid without innoculating Mary Mallon against the disease. The faithful are the cause and carriers, regardless of whether they are currently showing symptoms.

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

This makes slightly more sense to me although it is painfully overdramatic.

I could make an argument that any person under the right set of circumstances will cause harm. As far as I am aware, a religious person is not any more of a ticking time bomb than anyone else.

Blaming religion for these problems without tackling the underlying psychological issues is not going to help in any meaningful way. You just spread more hate and make the world a worse place, instead of approaching the situation with the slightest bit of empathy.

I see secular groups acting exactly the same way religious groups youve mentioned do. Its not a characteristic of religion or the lack thereof, its a characteristic of mentally unhealthy people.

If you care so much about these problems, then recognize that the world is not so black and white that you can always find an idea to make your enemy no matter the circumstances. The way to fix these problems is not to alienate massive groups of people because you think they might become bad one day. That's a childish close-minded world view that only perpetuates the things you claim to hate so much.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

I could make an argument that any person under the right set of circumstances will cause harm.

Indeed. However, for a faithless person, those circumstances must exist in objective reality. The faithful merely need to imagine the existence of their own triggers.

It's a characteristic of mentally unhealthy people.

I do not concede that this is a symptom of mental illness. What I am talking about is an error in judgment, not a defect in the ability to reason.

I see secular groups acting exactly the same way religious groups youve mentioned do.

I'm not sure what groups you are referring to. Do these groups "conflate personal belief with objective reality"? If so, I would likely have the same criticism.

That's a childish close-minded world view that only perpetuates the things you claim to hate so much.

Where did I claim to "hate" anything at all? I believe the strongest criticism I made was "distrust". I did once use the word "anger" in a description of my position, but I was directly quoting you at the time. You have inserted quite a lot of emotive concepts on my behalf that I have not actually expressed. I will renew my claims of "strawmen" and "gaslighting".

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Indeed. However, for a faithless person, those circumstances must exist in objective reality.

No, they do not. Anyone can justify any belief regardless of faith. I will admit faith is an easy target to justify horrible things, but its not at all the only way to justify things like that.

That's just how people work. Instead of admitting their beliefs are wrong, they will do mental gymnastics to justify them. It is very possible to have incorrect reasoning without being religious.

The underlying problem is absolutely bad mental health. Not necessarily a mental illness, but bad mental health in general. Everyone has justified a belief with bad logic because its too difficult to admit you are wrong. I've done it and still occasionally catch myself doing it. I believe you're doing it right now, although I'll admit I don't know you well enough to know for sure. I'm guessing you had some negative experience with religion and now justify your distaste for it by claiming religious people are more prone to doing horrible things.

I'm not sure what groups you are referring to. Do these groups "conflate personal belief with objective reality"?

Yes, the only difference is that their bad reasoning is not religious in nature. That's why your problem should be people that do that, not religious people. They are not related.

Where did I claim to "hate" anything at all? I believe the strongest criticism I made was "distrust".

Here I was using hate to refer to the examples you gave like anti vaccine and anti mask people. I'm assuming you do hate that, as you should.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

No, they do not. Anyone can justify any belief regardless of faith. I will admit faith is an easy target to justify horrible things, but its not at all the only way to justify things like that.

Remember what "faith" means in this context: the conflation of personal belief with objective reality. The act of "Justify[ing] any belief" is an act of "faith".

That's just how people work. Instead of admitting their beliefs are wrong, they will do mental gymnastics to justify them.

That is how certain people work, not all people. You have identified a set of people who "conflate their personal beliefs with objective reality".

The underlying problem is absolutely bad mental health. Not necessarily a mental illness, but bad mental health in general.

I don't think so, but let's check on it: is it a mental health issue when we use an incorrect order of operations in a mathematical statement? For example, x=1+2*3. Is the person who gets "7" mentally healthy? Is the person who gets "9" mentally unhealthy? What of the 3-year-old, who has not yet been taught numbers, and scribbles a stick image of a cat on the sheet?

An individual who does not comprehend the meaning of PEMDAS/BEDMAS is still capable of rational thought. The lack of knowledge will lead them to a fallacious conclusion, but their process of reaching that conclusion is still rational.

A deliberate refusal to accept and follow PEMDAS/BEDMAS rules is an error, but is not an indication of mental illness.

The knowledge that individual belief must be subordinate to objective reality is a philosophical model that not everyone has learned, but ignorance of that philosophy is certainly not indicative of a mental health condition.

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

That is how certain people work, not all people.

No. It is literally a function of the human brain. https://www.healthline.com/health/stress/amygdala-hijack#how-to-stop Every single person on earth has done this and will do it again.

I don't think so, but let's check on it: is it a mental health issue when we use an incorrect order of operations in a mathematical statement?

That is simple incorrect logic. What I'm talking about is emotions overriding logic.

Having faith in a religion is very different from justifying emotional reactions with bad logic. You are conflating your personal belief that they are the same with objective reality.

Everyone conflates personal belief with objective reality to varying degrees. A mentally healthy person can process their emotions well and recognize when they do so most of the time. A mentally unhealthy person will not recognize it because of their lack of emotional intelligence.

Again, I am not talking about a clinical condition that inhibits clear logic. I'm talking about the ability to process your emotions in a healthy way.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

Every single person on earth has done this and will do it again.

From your link, emphasis mine:

An amygdala hijack is an automatic response. Your body takes action without any conscious input from you.

"Belief" is a "conscious input." Conflating belief with objective reality is a conscious act, as is "declaration of an individual's religiosity". "Philosophy" is a consciously-developed worldview. As an unconscious response, "Amygdala hijack" is well outside the scope of these conscious, deliberate acts.

I have confined the scope of my discussion to the realm of consciousness, as it is only within this realm that we are capable of deliberate action. The unconscious realm does not interest me.

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Yes, you do not consciously make the decision to give up rational thought to emotion. This does not detract from my argument.

Have you considered that an automatic response might have a large impact on what you believe? The reason people don't see the lack of logic in their beliefs is because their emotions don't allow it.

Even outside of this specific function, neocortex activity is inversely correlated with amygdala activity. The more emotionally attached to a belief they are, the more difficult it is to stop believing it.

I don't see how you can just ignore this and pretend it has nothing to do with our conversation. It is literally the entire cause of the problems you've mentioned.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Have you considered that an automatic response might have a large impact on what you believe? The reason people don't see the lack of logic in their beliefs is because their emotions don't allow it.

I would say that you are overvaluing the effects of emotion on the initial decision, and you are ignoring their emotional response to their own rationalization.

There's a video floating around of a guy who instinctively reacted to a threat by hiding behind his significant other. He reacted in fear. Now comes the rationalization phase: He tries to understand the act he instinctively performed. Rationalization is the act of applying his philosophical model to his actions. He evaluates his behavior against the expectations of his model.

He could subscribe to a philosophical model where the sanctity of his body is greater than that of hers, in which case he could rationalize that his actions were good and proper. (He would then experience the emotion of "pride" that he followed his philosophical model correctly.)

He could subscribe to a philosophical model where he is expected to protect other people from harm. He would then rationalize that his actions were improper. (He would then experience the emotion of "shame" for falling short of his idealizes principles.)

(It is important to note that we are talking about a fraction of a second between the unconscious act and the rationalization of that act: the actor is feeling "pride" or "shame" at his action before his significant other has even realized what he has done. His initial, instantaneous reaction may not be controllable by his philosophical model. He might initially flinch behind her in fear, realize his error, and move to shield her from harm. Or, he might deliberately abandon her, and seek better protection from the perceived threat by fleeing. The point is that within fractions of a second, his actions are being influenced by his philosophical model. The "automatic response" you are talking stops being relevant as soon as this has occurred, and the philosophical model becomes the driving factor.)

In both cases, the initial act is identical, sparked by an unconscious, unintentional process. "Amygdala hijacking" may, indeed, be responsible for this initial act, but it is not responsible for the differing effects. The difference in outcomes is due to the conscious, philosophical model held by the actor. Philosophy plays a big part in driving emotion.

I am uninterested in discussing the conditions that are, by definition, outside of the will and control of the individual. My interest here extends only to those things we can consciously affect.

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

The difference in outcomes is due to the conscious, philosophical model held by the actor.

The outcome is whatever avoids the feeling of shame, unless the person is emotionally intelligent enough to recognize it happening. It absolutely can and will affect your logic.

The response is not just to physical threats, it is trying to avoid negative emotions. That may be the shame from recognizing your actions, or realizing your belief is illogical.

I would say that you are overvaluing the effects of emotion on the initial decision

Emotion is the initial decision. The rationalizations are just an attempt to pretend is reasonable.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

Do you have any relevant issues to add, or shall we conclude our discussion?

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

That's what I was just doing, but I guess I'll expand upon it.

Remember all of the groups of people you mentioned earlier, like anti vaccine or anti mask people? Do you think it was a fully conscious decision to hold that belief? No, they did not sit down and logically come to the conclusion that vaccines or masks are bad. Chances are, they heard a story on Facebook about it that scared them into that belief.

They thought with their emotions instead of actual logic, because they aren't in touch with their emotions enough to reliably differentiate between the two.

There was no conscious decision to conflate personal belief with reality. All of the examples you've given were not caused by a conscious decision at all. They were caused by unconscious emotional processes that they failed to recognize.

To say that things that happen without conscious input are irrelevant to this conversation is completely incorrect. The difference between a normal religious person and a religious person with the problematic beliefs you've mentioned is this unconscious process.

A normal person regardless of religiosity is mentally capable of recognizing that process. A mentally unhealthy person regardless of religiosity is not capable of this.

When you say that's outside of the scope of this conversation, here's what I hear:

I have nothing more of value to add to this conversation, so I will desperately try to end it while maintaining the illusion that my argument had any value in the first place.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

Remember all of the groups of people you mentioned earlier, like anti vaccine or anti mask people? Do you think it was a fully conscious decision to hold that belief?

That is not an important question. Again, emotions are automatic responses. By definition, they are not controllable. There is no point in discussing them because we cannot directly affect them.

The only route through which we can affect emotional response is philosophy. We can't affect the immediate response, but we can affect the rationalization process by focusing on a different philosophical model.

A philosophy that an individual's personal beliefs are of greater importance than objective reality exacerbates the issues you discuss. A philosophy that rejects this mitigates your issues.

When you say that's outside of the scope of this conversation, here's what I hear:

I have nothing more of value to add to this conversation,

Your condescending tone aside, that is correct. You are diverting us away from a path of consciously affecting behavior and mindsets, and toward a path that, by definition, we cannot. You are knowingly choosing a dead-end road; I have nothing of value to add to your decision to follow that path, and I do not choose to walk it with you.

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

There is no point in discussing them because we cannot directly affect them.

There absolutely is a point in discussing things you can't affect. Also, you can affect their power over your ability to reason if you are emotionally aware enough.

That is not an important question. Again, emotions are automatic responses.

It is. If part of the topic of this conversation is people that think with their emotions, it would tell you that emotions are absolutely related to this conversation. You brought those groups up as examples yourself.

The only route through which we can affect emotional response is philosophy.

Not true. You can learn to control your emotions to some extent without changing philosophy. Also, your philosophy is usually based on your emotions. Not the other way around. The belief that murder is bad comes from emotion. There is no argument to be made that a human life has value. We all agree its bad anyway though, because death causes negative emotions.

A philosophy that an individual's personal beliefs are of greater importance than objective reality exacerbates the issues you discuss

No one believes their personal beliefs to be more important than objective reality. They believe their personal beliefs are objective reality. They do this because of their emotions. That's why its important to discuss them.

You are knowingly choosing a dead-end road

It is a destination, not a dead end. The destination being the obvious conclusion that you have no reason to distrust all religious people.

I have nothing of value to add to your decision to follow that path, and I do not choose to walk it with you.

You had nothing of value to add to begin with. You literally just dislike religion for no reason.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

Also, you can affect their power over your ability to reason if you are emotionally aware enough.

"Emotions" are the unconscious responses. "Emotional awareness" is the conscious aspect. You are describing a philosophical model against which to evaluate the emotional reaction. You are restating my arguments.

The belief that murder is bad comes from emotion

Rejected. Plenty of societies justify killing for everything from self defense to promoting a master race to appeasing the gods. The emotional response to such killings are based on the philosophical model of the individual. The emotion follows the philosophy, it does not guide it.

The destination being the obvious conclusion that you have no reason to distrust all religious people.

It seems important that you be right. I have already conceded that I have nothing to add to that aspect of the conversation. You won.

Now, do you wish to continue the journey anywhere else, or are you happy where you arrived?

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Emotional awareness" is the conscious aspect. You are describing a philosophical model in which to evaluate the emotional reaction.

No, I am describing emotional awareness. The ability to understand your emotions and limit their effect on your reasoning is not a philosophical model.

Plenty of societies justify killing for everything from self defense to promoting a master race to appeasing the gods. The emotional response to such killings are based on the philosophical model of the individual. The emotion follows the philosophy, it does not guide it.

This is a surprisingly good argument, but it does not prove the conclusion you came to. Its more of an exception to what I said. It demonstrates that emotional responses can be impacted by philosophy. It does not demonstrate that this is always how it works, or even most of the time.

It seems important that you be right.

Yes, my goal in this argument was in fact to prove I am right. I do not like hateful views with no reasoning behind them.

Now, do you wish to continue the journey anywhere else, or are you happy where you arrived?

I'm not particularly happy because you are going to continue believing hateful nonsense, but at least I tried. I should've expected as much anyway, given that I'm arguing with people on the internet.

[-] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

hateful nonsense

Rejected, with my previous arguments. Strawman, gaslighting, ad hominem.

Nothing else you have said furthers the discussion.

[-] sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

The discussion is apparently over now because you won't continue it. But that doesn't stop you from naming fallacies at me I guess.

We've had quite a long conversation, and you have yet to provide a half decent argument for your distrust of religious people. Therefore, hateful nonsense. I can't misrepresent your argument when I'm not even actually representing it. I'm just describing what I think it essentially boils down to. Its hateful nonsense.

Again, correcting you is not gaslighting. You are literally just wrong.

I did not personally attack you. I have worded things in passive aggressive ways throughout this conversation, but that's about it. If you are referring specifically to the "hateful nonsense" part, that's again just a description of your belief.

Are you actually done now? Or will you keep saying random words hoping something works.

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