if I started purposefully calling you ma’m or lil miss all the time (assuming you’re a dude) you wouldn’t like it.

What's not to like? The nerd trying to be a bully is funny.

If I suspended the charter to make a law that everyone has to call you lil miss you don’t think you’d be mad?

I would think you are mad (in the insane sense).

The right however is going to war over this shit

I'm sure there is no completely unified front, but many are pushing for this because they consider it to be a mental illness. If you look at it from that point of view, you can see why they do not see the problem with calling notwithstanding. It is already granted under the Charter for educators to notify parents when they see children displaying symptoms of illness. From their point of view, failing to do so is not complying with one's rights.

In other words, the real clash is the idea of it being a mental illness v.s. it being normal human expression. Words are merely caught in the crossfire.