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If a therapist gives you any advice at all, they’re doing it wrong.
The point of therapy is to help you think clearly.
Everything they advise you to do should be “consider this” or “ask yourself that”. They should never be advising concrete actions. All of their advice should be about what to look at.
I think that's a bit too absolute though. For instance, my therapist gave me advice on grounding when dealing with derealization. She also gave me advice on treatment programs for my addiction issues.
I guess it's how you define advice in this particular instance.
That sounds like a useful bit of procedural knowledge, not advice.
I bet she presented is some way like “Well, if you’re interested there are some methods that are known to work …” and then waited for you to decide that it would be good to learn those.
At least that’s how my therapists have presented such things. I’ve learned methods from them, but I haven’t heard them say “I think you should do X”.
If a person comes and asks for advice, you say things like “I mean you gotta take care of X, so that means you’re gonna have to Y. If I were you I’d start with Z and then …”
That’s what I mean by advice. Making decisions for them. Educating on a procedure is just making sure information is available.