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With what money? You can't just travel across the country for free lol. Getting to another state alone is a good chunk of money for gas a lot of the time. Then what? Sleep in their car? Alone? In a place completely bereft of any kind of support or familiarity?
Why can’t you travel the country for free? Or at least bus tickets are very cheap.
Yeah, you just don't get it and I don't know how to explain how difficult it would be to do that alone with nothing. I don't know if it's something that can be explained to someone that hasn't struggled.
I’m literally speaking from experience. And I also don’t own a car because it’s a money sink. I left everything behind I couldn’t fit in a box and moved across my country because I figured if I was going to struggle anyway, it may as well be where the grass is green. And while I have left all my family support behind, I have actual social support. There is so much more to where you live than what you have.
Are you a dude? I'm not asking this to be argumentative I just need you to understand that it is extremely different when you have to worry about if you'll be molested or worse when you sleep. I'm not saying it isn't hard for men to strike out on their own at all. I'm also absolutely not saying that men don't also get assaulted. I promise, I know it can be so difficult for anyone. Women have so many additional hurdles on top of that. I was homeless at 17 and the amount of people that "helped me out" but then expected sexual favors in return was fucking gross. No Kevin, you don't get a blow job because you brought me some stale ass donuts from your convenience store job ffs 🙄
I've been there too and the fact that men can just sleep on a bus stop, out in the open, in relative safety automatically gives them a privilege we simply don't have. Women's shelters can be great if you can find one with space. Even then some of them are grossly religious and as stifling as the situations these women want to escape from. A woman got kicked out of one of the shelters I stayed in because she had condoms in her dresser drawer. I guessing men don't get kicked out of anywhere because someone found out that they might be having sex.
You were presenting as a woman at the time then? The whole time? I don't care if that's rude to ask because it's relevant. And you had absolutely nobody at all to help you? Not a single solitary person? No money and no car either right? Because that's what you're saying other people should be able to do. If you went through all of that as a woman I can't imagine why you'd present it as a reasonable option for others. Knowing how hard and dangerous it can be.