Alright, I'll pretend that you're coming at this from a place of good faith discussion.

I guess I'm wondering, in what context do you want to talk about this? There are articles and studies that talk about the rape fantasy thing. There are online communities where you can have healthy discussions about this in an intellectual and academic way.

I think the existence of 50 shades and other similar media is about as open as you can be about this stuff.

So I ask again, what exactly is the context in which you want to talk about this? Do you, as a man, want to just tell women they have secret rape fantasies? That would be odd.

Do you want to interrupt a discussion about the dangers of men actually raping women and tell them that they are statistically likely to have had harmless fantasies about it? What does that add to a discussion about misogyny and rape?

I'm struggling to see the intersection of where the "dark side of femininity" should be discussed but isn't.