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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by JAJLWolf@lemmy.sdf.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

EDIT: Thank you all so much for your thoughtful input. It means so much to me.

Hi, all. I'm looking to change my nasty tendency to be a sore loser, particularly when playing games. I tend to personalize losses that are of no consequence. When the game starts to shift against me, I often stop trying as hard because it feels hopeless. My partner is much more proficient at board games than I am, and I don't want this toxic trait of mine to make games less fun for us. What are some things you all tried to lessen this train of thought, if you've experienced it?

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[-] Clipboards@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Honestly, a massive one for me is not letting myself get angry at a game I can't hope to understand or master at a highly competitive level. I do a lot better at recognizing these days when I am intellectually or physically incapable of getting better quickly at a game - my mind shifts these activities outside of a competitive mindset and more to a leisure mindset.

When I'm not trying to actively compete against others to a point of pride, suddenly I'm a lot more receptive to incremental growth at my own pace

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