A) LGBT is/was fine

It is. Some people prefer using a different term, and that is also fine.

B) Yes, at a pride parade most recently of all things. Had to be defended by my two gay room mates.

Please do elaborate. Did the problem arise because you used your preferred term and somebody corrected you, or the other way around? Because at least in this post it's been you who has been demanding other people to use your preferred term, not the other way around.

Don’t deflect. Homey (forget if it was you)

It wasn't me, and you could have checked very easily.

So if you can’t accept that opinion, even if you disagree, it’s short sighted of you

So, people can either agree with your opinion or be shortsighted? Is there no room for anything else?

Whether your various queer acquaintances agree with you or not, other queer people like me can disagree, because we are not the Borg. Speaking of consensus, if we have one thing in common it is probably being tired of straight people telling us how to be queer.