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[-] Freesiana@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

My ex. I had weird feeling from the start, because they wanted to spent time with me 24/7. my ex was so superkind, helpful and always giving me compliments and i quess i got hooked on that cause they felt different being overly nice. I will not share whole the story, but when i was with them, i started to notice patterns. So shortly my ex sexually abused/raped when i was sleeping, this happened atleast 3 times. And their excuse was sorry, thought you were sleeping. They were pressing to do other stuff too, i quess you can probably quess, but if i declined i got silent treatments and they were moody and annoyed. When my ex was pressuring to do videos on Pornhub(i declined ofc) i started realise that this is so fuckin sick, i started to have insomnia, depression, getting angry and started to have social anxety. Relationship ended when i discovered that they were cheating +6months with their friend without protection ofc, and all their excuses were blaming me for being moody, angry and suicidal, yeah after all that i think not many women will be sane. They werent sorry or take accountability. I wasted 10 years because i was too stupid to realise that that wasnt love. I still feel like a idiot. Therapy has been huge help for me and i know that it will take years to recover. I shouldve listened that gut feeling because i ended be in relationship with a sosiopath or something similar.

[-] BilboBargains@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You're not stupid, anybody can fall victim to a manipulation. Everyone has some sort of weak spot that can be exploited. It's not helpful to play the blame game but if you're gonna blame anyone it would be the narcissist that you described. The other thing to remember is that we cannot change the past, therefore no point worrying about it. The important thing is happening right now. Good luck sweetie.

[-] Freesiana@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Thank you. I feel like i did the right choice when i left and now i am taking a new chapter in my life. Cheers to new beginnings 🥳

this post was submitted on 24 Oct 2023
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